The Importance Of Words

One of the things I do a lot with clients is help them become aware of the words they use. It’s amazing how our everyday speech can undermine the very things we are trying to manifest.

Some good examples of this are:

Wanting more money but always saying you can’t afford this or that
Wanting to lose weight but commenting on how fat you are
Wanting more energy but complaining about how tired you are
Wanting a raise but telling everyone how your job doesn’t pay very well

See how these statements reinforce your current reality, i.e. what you don’t want?

Remember that part of the manifesting process includes
aligning yourself with the things you want.

One way of doing that is to make sure your words reflect your desires instead of contradicting them. Let’s take the above statements and tweak them to be consistent with your desires:

DESIRE	CURRENT STATEMENT	NEW STATEMENT
More Money	Can’t afford it	- I’m going to be able to get that soon. - I choose not to buy that right now.
Lose Weight	Too fat	- My body is shaping up nicely. - Wow I feel so lucky that I only weigh __ instead of __ (add 50 pounds or so).
More Energy	Tired	-Wow look at all I did today. No wonder I’m tired.
Pay Raise	Low paying job	-With all the skills and experience I’ve gotten form this job I know I’ll soon be eligible for a raise. -I really appreciate the company and people I work for and I know they’ll be open to compensating me a little better for all the hard work I do.

See how just changing the words gives a whole new meaning to the feeling of the statement? So now that you how important the choice of words is to manifesting success, how can you make sure you’re consistently choosing words that support your desires?

One thing to be aware of is that we often get into a rut of repeating phrases so much that we don’t even realize it. I have a client for example who was always using the word “suffering” to describe people and circumstances. Another client frequently made comments about not being smart enough. These had become what I call habit phrases which means they are uttered without even a thought about what’s being said. In fact, neither person was even aware of the frequency with which they used these phrases until I pointed it out to them.

What you can do in your own life is to pay attention to the words you use and weather they support your desires or contradict them. When you notice yourself repeating the same unwanted phrases, mentally erase it and substitute an alternative that is more in sync with what you want. You can even ask others to help by “catching you” as you say those unwanted words.

As a fun little game at work or home, you can have everyone come up with a personal word habit they want to break. Each time someone gets caught saying those words they have to put some money in a jar. At the end of the month draw a random name to win the pot or use it to throw a little party.

That’s just one idea. So what about you….how do you make sure your words are in sync with what you want?