How can I stop the world from feeling like such a hard, lonely and unforgiving place to be, which basically is what causes my low moods?

This is an excellent question and one many of us ask often.  It’s hard to see the world as nurturing and supportive when our outer experience seems to deny that.

The truth is that the world is just the world. It is simply the environment we live in and is neutral.  It’s our spin on it that makes it appear cruel and unforgiving or nurturing and supportive.

For instance, I’ve been in grocery lines where some people were griping and complaining about how slow it was going, how rude everyone was and basically what a terrible experience they were having.  And in that same line was someone else smiling, talking with the people around them, reading magazines and having a grand time.  I actually heard one woman comment that she hoped the line slowed down a bit so she could finish reading an article :)

What a great example of contrast!  So if you are experiencing the world as cruel and forgiving, let me ask this:

What would you like instead of that?

If you want nurturing and supportive, make a decision to have that experience.  Then start looking for evidence to support that.  When something seems cruel and unforgiving, turn it over in your mind and see if from another point of view it actually could be nurturing and supportive.

You may make slow progress at first, especially if you’ve been living in a rotten world for a while, but it will be noticeable.  And over time the world will change until everything is happy and sunny and you wonder why you ever thought it was such a terrible place to live!

When these things happen it’s easy to want to just throw in the towel and give up hope.

But the truth is that even in the darkest of times there is always hope to be found – if you know where to look for it.

So where do you find this hope when you’re down in the depths of despair?

The first thing to do is remind yourself that no matter what is going on around you, you still have the power to choose what you want.  Notice I didn’t say you have the power to choose your circumstances.  Instead I said choose what you want.  In manifesting we choose what we want, put the request out, then let the Universe take care of the details.  It all begins with a choice though and you alone have absolute power over the choice you decide to make.

Along with choosing what you want, you must have a strong sense of conviction about your choice and refuse to settle for anything less.  This is what I sometimes call the no nonsense approach to manifesting because it doesn’t leave the Universe open to options.  Yes the Universe gets to decide how your thing is delivered but what you want is non-negotiable.  This may seem a bit harsh but when things are really desperate and you’re on the verge of giving up you don’t have time to play around.  So put your foot down and insist that you want what you want and aren’t going to settle for anything less.

Third, look for clues – even the smallest hints – that things are changing.  If it’s been raining non-stop for weeks then the smallest break in the clouds is cause for celebration.  In fact look for clues in everything you encounter.  Life isn’t about what is but how we perceive what is.  So decide to perceive what you see as leading you toward what you want.

If you find yourself wavering, it’s ok.  We all waver from time to time.  Simply allow the doubt to be there and remind yourself that it will pass and soon enough you’ll be back on track to getting what you want.

You can do this – you have only to decide :^)

So what’s going on with them?  Are they out to get you?  Do they have a personal vendetta against your success?

Or could it be that they really are supportive and you just can’t see it?

Everyone sees the world through their own lens. So when your lens differs from theirs, especially if it’s on the opposite end of the spectrum, it makes sense that the advice they give you will be very different from what you want to hear.

Once you realize this you’re in a much better position to handle their support – or lack of support – differently.  Instead of taking it as a personal attack, you can look at it more objectively.  Understand that they are speaking from their experience and what they believe to be true.

And also understand that even if they seem generally unsupportive, there could just be a few nuggets of truth underneath that cloud of negativity.  So take all points under consideration and thank them for their input.  Then take the best of what they offer and integrate it as sound advice, letting the rest go.

Finally, don’t waste your time and energy trying to convince anyone that your way is better.  Allow them to be who they are (just as you are who you are), take the support they offer and find better support elsewhere.  Do this and you will find your relationships with those unsupportive people start to improve – and as a bonus once the pressure is off they may actually become more supportive than they were previously.

The person who says it cannot be done should
not interrupt the person doing it.

Wow isn’t that true!

And yet so many people don’t even try because they simply don’t believe certain things are possible.

The truth is that many things that were once considered impossible are now part of our every day lives.  Think of how many people thought it was impossible to sail around the world or fly.  There was a time when no one had phones without cords (much less cell phones) and the idea of having a computer in your home was laughable.  And diseases that killed people just a hundred years ago have been all but eradicated.

So I ask again: How do you know it’s not possible?

How do you know that you can’t get a better job or start a business?

How do you know that you can’t lose weight or run in that marathon?

How do you know that you can’t find the love of your life and go sailing off into the sunset?

How do you know that you can’t ace that test or get on the honor role this year?

The correct answer is: You Don’t!

The fact is it could happen.  Thomas Edison didn’t know for sure that the light bulb would work.  Roger Bannister didn’t know he could run a mile in less than 4 minutes.  The people at NASA didn’t know for sure they could put a man on the moon.  But all these things happened.

So I invite you to take another look at those things you think are just impossible.  Maybe – just maybe – they’re possible after all :)

The face you see in the mirror tells you a lot about what you can expect from your outer reality.

If you look in the mirror and grumble, criticize yourself or yikes! – even snarl then you can bet your outer reality will reflect that by bringing grumbling, snarling critical people right to you.

In addition, if you see the person in the mirror as ugly, imperfect or “not good enough” then chances are there will be a lot of things in your world that also fit that description.

A perfect example of this from my own life was when I went on vacation many years ago.  At that time I really didn’t like that gal in the mirror.  So when I went on vacation what did I see?  Bugs to swat at and terrible traffic and rude people and bad food and all sorts of other atrocities.  In short it was a very bad trip and I swore I’d never go back there!

Fast forward a few years and I did indeed go back.  By this time however I had learned to not only accept but love that gal in the mirror.  We went to the same place at almost the same time of year and saw some of the same sights and ate at the same restaurants.  And guess what….I loved it!  The food was amazing and the people were so friendly and the facilities were superb!

Did the vacation spot change?  Not really.  What changed was ME.  I was finally able to see beauty inside of me, which reflected in my outside experience too.

So take a moment and go look in the mirror….and if you don’t like what you see resolve to change your perception starting right now.  You’re outer world will follow suit and in no time everything in your life will be looking rosy :)

Being positive is actually a symptom – not a cause of what you are experiencing in life.

The real cause is your inner feelings and the vibes you’re sending out to the Universe.  If you are sending out positive vibes then this will be reflected in positive thoughts and words on the outside.  And if you’re sending out negative vibes your thoughts and words will reflect that too.

This is excellent news because it means that you can now monitor your inner vibes and make changes if necessary to steer you toward your goals.  If you find that your thoughts and words about a certain subject are negative for example, you can examine your inner vibe and see what needs to shift.  And you will know when that shift has taken place because you’ll begin to feel sunnier, say brighter things and walk a little taller :)

Need a few pointers on how to do this?  These tips will help you get in touch with your inner motivations so you can shift to a more productive state of being:

• Follow your thoughts – Instead of trying to change your thoughts, follow them back to their origin.  Approach this with curiosity, looking at your thought from different angles to see what it’s made of.  When you know why you think what you think things will make much more sense and you’ll be able to shift into a different place much easier.
• Look at physical causes – We are spiritual beings having a human experience and part of that experience is that we have to deal with our physical bodies.  So if we don’t get enough sleep or don’t eat right or work ourselves to the point of exhaustion it will have a negative effect on our energy levels, vibes and thoughts.
• Ask yourself how you’d like to feel instead – In the midst of negativity stop and ask yourself if this feels good to you and if not then how you’d rather feel instead.  Believe it or not there are times when it feels good to feel bad.  The thing is to be honest about it.  And if you’re ok with how you feel then go with it (for now).  If not then set an intent to make a shift and start exploring those underlying causes.

So I was all on board with this…had the post-its in my car and everything when my Twitter friend  @WAHwithJL sent me this picture, which opened my eyes to a whole new level of possibility for this!

First, I immediately realized this can be extended to ALL people……not just women (yeah, guys need a little encouragement too sometimes).  Second I love that it’s a quote.  For some reason people love quotes and it puts a smile on their face when they read them :D

Ok so how does this benefit you?  First, you get a little emotional charge out of doing it.  It’s so cool to see the expression on other people’s faces when they read the little notes!  Second by doing this it’s a reminder to you that you are also all these things.  Yes YOU!  Everything you offer to others also applies to you.

So smile people….you ARE beautiful!

Have a great weekend :)

I’m not making excuses for not posting.  Instead this is a good example of taking inspired action and following the flow.

More than once I sat down to write something on this blog but the words weren’t there.  And as a manifester I know that trying to force action isn’t a good idea.  Had I done that  my posts would have been dry and not at all helpful.  And that’s what this blog is about…helping YOU to be better manifesters and creators of your reality!

I wanted to share this with you to let you know that even I have little dry spells from time to time.  And when I do I honor that, intending that the energy will start moving again and in the mean time allowing my actions to follow my inspiration.

What about you?  Are there areas in your life that could use a little less force and more flow?  And are you ready to allow that?

Think about it and get back to me :)

As I was scrubbing away yesterday it occurred to me that now is also a good time to clear out those mental cobwebs and eliminate old, dusty thought patterns in favor of something a little more fresh and new.

But one of the hardest things about doing that (at least for me) is deciding what needs to go.

So the rule of thumb I use is that anything that makes me heavy, tired, stifled, dusty, old, or just plain yucky needs to be booted right out the door.  That includes things, people, situations, and most importantly attitudes.

Now of course I know I can’t just boot certain people out of my life on a whim.  And I also know that certain situations may not change on a dime (although I’ve seen it happen – never say never :p).  But I do KNOW, without a doubt that I can always change my attitude.  And experience has taught me that once I do that then outer change is always right behind.

This is why I list “attitudes” as the most important factor.  I KNOW that attitude is the one thing I can always change and I also know that it’s one of the fastest way to seeing results in those other areas.

What about you?  Do you have a few cobwebs lurking in the corners of your mind that need a little clearing out?

That happened to me last night and before I knew it I was mentally breaking off a really good friendship just because I was hurt.

Thing is….the person I was mad at didn’t even know it. It was a completely inside job.

This little internal battle reminded me of a truth I often share with people:

The only reason people get mad is because they’re not getting their way.

In my case I wanted this person to communicate in a certain way that just wasn’t happening. And no amount of me forcing my will is going to change that.

So what can I do?

I can manifest a change in this relationship.  Which is exactly what I decided to do.  And once I made that decision my attitude shifted and harmony was restored once again :)

What changes would you like to manifest in your relationships?