And yet so often I want what I want so badly it’s easy to try and tweak things a little here or give a little push there because of course I *know* what I’m doing (hehe).

And invariably what happens is I manage to muck up the works.  And sometimes I succeed in bringing things to a dead stop!

So anyway… I thought it might be helpful to share some of the ways I get myself turned around so I can once again go with the flow instead of trying to swim upstream.

• First, if it feels hard, yucky, etc. and you find yourself making excuses to not do it, complaining, or doing it badly then it’s time to take a break.  It is definitely NOT a good action moment.  Go clear your head, divert your attention, do something to get your mind completely off things.  I promise when you go back later you’ll get more done and in less time than you thought possible.
• Second, restate your intent to have things flow easily.  Yeah the Universe heard your request the first time and its busy lining things up but perhaps YOU need a reminder (I know I do).  So restate your intent firmly and with purpose, fully expecting that it be carried out.
• Third, stop backing yourself into corners.  Many times when I’m trying to take control it’s because I have forgotten that the Universe can deliver in infinite ways.  When I needed a new TV once I got it in my head that the only place I could get one was this particular store.  So I was checking each week for sales and getting frustrated that what I wanted wasn’t yet in my price range.  One day when I was complaining to a friend, he reminded me that he’d offered me an extra TV of theirs weeks ago.  All I had to do was come get it.  Duh…I was too set on my own “how” to see what was right in front of my eyes.
• Finally… sometimes you have to just give up.  That’s right.  Give up, tell the Universe you’re done and walk away.  Very often this is exactly what’s needed to open the floodgates and bring your manifestations into your life.

I hope you find these tips helpful.  I’ll look for ya as I’m floating happily down the stream of life…. what color is your tube?

How can I stop the world from feeling like such a hard, lonely and unforgiving place to be, which basically is what causes my low moods?

This is an excellent question and one many of us ask often.  It’s hard to see the world as nurturing and supportive when our outer experience seems to deny that.

The truth is that the world is just the world. It is simply the environment we live in and is neutral.  It’s our spin on it that makes it appear cruel and unforgiving or nurturing and supportive.

For instance, I’ve been in grocery lines where some people were griping and complaining about how slow it was going, how rude everyone was and basically what a terrible experience they were having.  And in that same line was someone else smiling, talking with the people around them, reading magazines and having a grand time.  I actually heard one woman comment that she hoped the line slowed down a bit so she could finish reading an article :)

What a great example of contrast!  So if you are experiencing the world as cruel and forgiving, let me ask this:

What would you like instead of that?

If you want nurturing and supportive, make a decision to have that experience.  Then start looking for evidence to support that.  When something seems cruel and unforgiving, turn it over in your mind and see if from another point of view it actually could be nurturing and supportive.

You may make slow progress at first, especially if you’ve been living in a rotten world for a while, but it will be noticeable.  And over time the world will change until everything is happy and sunny and you wonder why you ever thought it was such a terrible place to live!

So what’s going on with them?  Are they out to get you?  Do they have a personal vendetta against your success?

Or could it be that they really are supportive and you just can’t see it?

Everyone sees the world through their own lens. So when your lens differs from theirs, especially if it’s on the opposite end of the spectrum, it makes sense that the advice they give you will be very different from what you want to hear.

Once you realize this you’re in a much better position to handle their support – or lack of support – differently.  Instead of taking it as a personal attack, you can look at it more objectively.  Understand that they are speaking from their experience and what they believe to be true.

And also understand that even if they seem generally unsupportive, there could just be a few nuggets of truth underneath that cloud of negativity.  So take all points under consideration and thank them for their input.  Then take the best of what they offer and integrate it as sound advice, letting the rest go.

Finally, don’t waste your time and energy trying to convince anyone that your way is better.  Allow them to be who they are (just as you are who you are), take the support they offer and find better support elsewhere.  Do this and you will find your relationships with those unsupportive people start to improve – and as a bonus once the pressure is off they may actually become more supportive than they were previously.

This seems silly to some people, or like it’s trying to trick yourself.  But it’s not.  In fact ignoring reality is something that we do all the time weather we realize it or not.

For instance, let’s say you’re at a restaurant.  The waiter asks what you want and you order the steak.  You have just ignored reality.  Because in reality there is no steak in front of you.  In fact there’s nothing at all except maybe some silverware and the drink the waiter just brought you.  But if you focused on that you’d never get the steak.  Instead you’d sit there disappointed because you had no dinner to eat.  So you do the obvious thing….you order.

Manifesting works the same way.  You decide what you want and you ask.  Then you anticipate the arrival of your “steak,” not worrying about the fact that it’s not there yet.

So why is it so easy to do this at a restaurant and so hard to do this with other things?

Because you know how a restaurant works.  You are confident that the waiter will take your order to the kitchen, the cook will prepare it and then it will come straight to your table.  You accept that this is the way it is because you’ve probably been to restaurants before and you know the routine.

But with manifesting most people aren’t so confident.  They aren’t really sure that the Universal waiter even heard their order.  And since the Universe doesn’t offer a “20 minute meal guarantee” they have no idea when their steak might arrive.  So instead of just enjoying their drink and having a nice conversation they focus instead on the empty space in front of them, all the time getting more and more worried that their steak will never come.

The person who says it cannot be done should
not interrupt the person doing it.

Wow isn’t that true!

And yet so many people don’t even try because they simply don’t believe certain things are possible.

The truth is that many things that were once considered impossible are now part of our every day lives.  Think of how many people thought it was impossible to sail around the world or fly.  There was a time when no one had phones without cords (much less cell phones) and the idea of having a computer in your home was laughable.  And diseases that killed people just a hundred years ago have been all but eradicated.

So I ask again: How do you know it’s not possible?

How do you know that you can’t get a better job or start a business?

How do you know that you can’t lose weight or run in that marathon?

How do you know that you can’t find the love of your life and go sailing off into the sunset?

How do you know that you can’t ace that test or get on the honor role this year?

The correct answer is: You Don’t!

The fact is it could happen.  Thomas Edison didn’t know for sure that the light bulb would work.  Roger Bannister didn’t know he could run a mile in less than 4 minutes.  The people at NASA didn’t know for sure they could put a man on the moon.  But all these things happened.

So I invite you to take another look at those things you think are just impossible.  Maybe – just maybe – they’re possible after all :)

The face you see in the mirror tells you a lot about what you can expect from your outer reality.

If you look in the mirror and grumble, criticize yourself or yikes! – even snarl then you can bet your outer reality will reflect that by bringing grumbling, snarling critical people right to you.

In addition, if you see the person in the mirror as ugly, imperfect or “not good enough” then chances are there will be a lot of things in your world that also fit that description.

A perfect example of this from my own life was when I went on vacation many years ago.  At that time I really didn’t like that gal in the mirror.  So when I went on vacation what did I see?  Bugs to swat at and terrible traffic and rude people and bad food and all sorts of other atrocities.  In short it was a very bad trip and I swore I’d never go back there!

Fast forward a few years and I did indeed go back.  By this time however I had learned to not only accept but love that gal in the mirror.  We went to the same place at almost the same time of year and saw some of the same sights and ate at the same restaurants.  And guess what….I loved it!  The food was amazing and the people were so friendly and the facilities were superb!

Did the vacation spot change?  Not really.  What changed was ME.  I was finally able to see beauty inside of me, which reflected in my outside experience too.

So take a moment and go look in the mirror….and if you don’t like what you see resolve to change your perception starting right now.  You’re outer world will follow suit and in no time everything in your life will be looking rosy :)

Is it better to start with one manifesting project
or can I have several going all at once?

The answer depends on you.  If you understand the Law of Attraction and are comfortable with the manifesting process then go ahead and start multiple projects.

But if you’re new to Law of Attraction, unsure of yourself, or are frustrated because you haven’t been getting results lately then it’s better to go back to the basics and apply them to just one thing.  Then as you begin to see results and your confidence builds you can start multi-tasking again.

The way I do it personally is that I always have some little things going in the background while I work on several bigger projects at the same time. For instance, I always manifest primo parking spots, stuff on sale at the grocery store, smooth flowing traffic and great weather when I take a walk.  In fact these are so ingrained in my thinking that it’s not even manifesting anymore so much as my expectation of the way things are.

In addition, right now I have 3 big projects I’m working on, all of which are creating monumental changes in my day to day life.  But I didn’t start them all at the same time.  For me that would have been overwhelming and I would have quickly given up.  Instead I asked the Universe for all three and also asked that they happen in a way that was fun and easy.  Soon after I was inspired to work on the first project, which is going well. I kept affirming that all three were underway and sure enough, about a month later I was inspired to start the second.   Inspiration to start the third came soon after, and now I’m balancing all three things, making great progress, and with a flow and ease that still astounds me sometimes.

So the bottom line is this:

If it feels right then go ahead and multi-task.  And if it gets overwhelming or frustrating it’s perfectly find to take a step back and regroup, even going back to manifesting things one by one if you need to.

1. Follow the energy! I tell people this all the time and yet here I was completely oblivious!  Each time I tried to force myself to take action I was shut down – no – slammed to the ground!  I would schedule writing time then sit at the computer staring at a blank screen.  I would make ridiculous promises to my coach and mentor, only to completely blow them away.  I would get frustrated and forget the very things I teach.  Finally a good friend of mine gave me a wake up call, pointing me back to one of my own blog posts as she rather sternly reminded me to let go of the “shoulds” and follow the energy.  And when I finally did oh boy did things start to pop!  I’d wake up in the middle of the night full of inspiration and run to the computer to fire off a few pages of material.  I was talking to a friend who offhandedly mentioned something that completely solved a technical problem I’d been having.  My mic for recording audio, which had been MIA for weeks, mysteriously appeared right on my night stand.  I could list a million other things but you get the idea.  Go with the flow and ALLOW things in…and they will come!
2. Don’t put the cart before the horse. I’m very logical by nature so it’s my tendency to plan ahead a few moves (made me a really good chess player as a teenager).  So here I was at the very beginning, stages of the project and already thinking about format, how to record the audio, marketing, and all that other stuff.  Yes these things are important – in their own time.  But when I hadn’t even put a word on the page yet it was pointless to think I had to know how to set up a shopping cart or make cool pictures for my sales page.  What I eventually did was use my own process to ASK the Universe to show me the way in the proper time and by golly it happened :)
3. Getting caught up in negative self talk. Everyone succumbs to this sometimes and I am no exception.  There were times, especially when I was putting the cart before the horse or trying to swim upstream, that I found myself feeling inadequate.  Questions like “what if everyone hates this course,” and “what if no one ever buys it,” loomed in my mind.  A couple times I felt like just throwing in the towel because it seemed an impossible task.  Again I turned to the tried and true methods I’ve used in the past to get out of the rut and back on track.  And you know what…I’m glad I did because the finished product is something I’m proud of!

So what about you? Are these insights helpful?  And what additional insights can you share from the big projects in your life?

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In Law of Attraction, we know that we manifest things that we are in sync with vibrationally.  So it follows that on some level we must be a vibrational match to the very thing we think we don’t want….or it wouldn’t be staring us in the face!

A way to unravel the source of these types of manifestations is to do this little exercise:

Come up with 5-10 reasons how you
might benefit from the thing you don’t want.

For example, no one wants to get sick but what’s the benefit of being sick?  A day or two off work or school?  Getting out of doing something else you didn’t really want to do (think about times you’ve gotten sick on test day), being taken care of or getting attention, having a excuse for not being at the top of your game?  As you can see, while you may not have specifically chosen to get sick, you may have put one of these other desires out to the Universe.  And it could be that from a Universal point of view getting sick is the most efficient and effective way of delivering what you asked for.

By the way, these unwanted manifestations can often be avoided simply by paying attention to Universal cues and taking inspired action toward what you are asking for.

The Law of Attraction has nothing to do with how sunny or positive you are.  The truth is that EVERY thought and emotion attracts stuff to you.  Positive, negative, neutral or whatever.

Furthermore, thoughts alone cannot manifest a single thing.  Thoughts have to be charged with a corresponding emotion in order to manifest into reality.

In fact, when thoughts and emotions aren’t in sync, emotion trumps thought so that you get what you feel even if you think you want something else.

So don’t beat yourself up if you’re not merrily skipping through life all the time.  Think intensity along with synchronicity and you’ll see a marked improvement in your manifesting success.